Daily Devotional – 12/6/17 “Spiritual Exhaust Hood”

An exhaust hood is the device that hangs over a stove containing a fan whose purpose is to remove grease, fumes, smoke, odors and steam that is in the air. It works by pulling in the bad and either it circulates the unclean elements outside or it has a system that filters out the bad while recirculating the good. In other words, it vents the space making the environment easier to breathe in but it only works when you turn it on. I thought about this because yesterday, I shared that you have to let people vent sometimes. Well, today, I ask you the question, who are you venting too because social media should NOT be your outlet. You do realize, sometimes you need to vent in order to make your environment better, don’t you? With depression’s grip getting tighter, bullying on the rise, suicidal thoughts keeping you up, feelings of failure that’s overtaking your daydreams, unable to look at yourself in the mirror because you are disappointed in you, struggling to survive, business isn’t doing good, being pulled in every direction, debt is drowning you, ministry work is harder and you’re still pretending to hold it together; baby you need to vent. Who are you venting too beloved because you need somebody you can confidently confide in without worrying if the fan inside their exhaust hood will spread it.

Yes, for some it’s your spouse but even then, you may need somebody else who has walked in some similar shoes and can tell you how to cope when those shoes get heavy. In ministry, you need to have someone in ministry who has been where you’re trying to go and understands. Marriage woes, you need someone who is married and can give sound advice. Single, you need somebody single who is grounded and level-headed. Depressed, you need somebody who has been there and overcame. Sick, you need somebody who has been where you are and survived. Domestic abuse, you need someone who knows the signs because they used to be there too but got out. You need a spiritual exhaust hood. Someone who will sit in the midst of your toxins, willingly taking it all in and then circulate clean air out because you’re too exhausted to do it yourself. Understand and read this good, you DO NOT need a yes man/woman but you need somebody who can hear you and then help and not someone who pacifies your prognosis. With the harsh realities of life, you need an exhaust hood with an air filter and not an air freshener; that’s someone who can clean the air and not mask the smell. Somebody who knows when to listen and when to labor. Somebody who knows when it’s time to pray and time to pave. I told you this before, it is time out for folk who will ride or die and time in for folk who can rebuke and decree. Be sure to read the reviews though because the last thing you need is one that doesn’t work properly.


Daily Devotional – 10/27/16 “Who are you venting too?”

My best friend sent me a text a few minutes ago and it was right on time. It was a screenshot from her “Sprinkle of Jesus” app and it simply said … Be careful who you vent to. And baby, if this isn’t the truth. This is why a lot of us face more problems than we should, on a daily basis. It’s not because you run your mouth but it’s due to the ones you ran it too. All you have to do is pay attention to them. If they can’t keep their business to themselves, what makes you think they’ll keep yours? This is why everybody shouldn’t be privy to your problems. (Read that again). Sometimes you need to mind your business and let them mind theirs. Oh but this is also why you have to be mindful of who you let into your personal space. We were having this same discussion in my psychology class on Tuesday night because a lot of ministry leaders are dealing with some stuff because of who they thought they could trust. And it’s the same with anybody. You trust certain people and you share things with them, only for it to now be spreading like fire. You have to be careful who you vent too.

Being in ministry, there are some things I don’t share with my husband. It’s not because I don’t trust him or that he’ll tell it but it’s because sometimes, there are things that shouldn’t be repeated. Sometimes we have to hush and not talk. On the flip side, if I do vent to him, I know he isn’t going to tell anyone else. And this is needed. You NEED someone you can talk to on those days you feel like giving up and know they won’t judge you or tell it. This is why you have to surround yourself with some folk who get you and who understand. And I’ve been grateful to be aligned with some great ‘girls’ who also get me. With them, there’s some times I don’t want to be Rev., momma, wife, author, encourager, corporate worker and etc. and they get that. And I can vent and rest assured knowing, it stays within the confines of their ears and vice versa. This is why I say again, you need to have someone you can vent to. It doesn’t matter if you pastor a mega church or a small store front. It doesn’t matter if you’re 19 or 90. It doesn’t matter if you’re rich or temporarily out of funds. You need someone in your corner you can trust. This especially means your spouse but also someone else too. Because if you don’t, you’ll find yourself inwardly dealing with some stuff that has the potential to destroy your mind. Who are you venting too?