Daily Devotional – 2/13/20 “How are you loving you?”

Here it is, Valentine’s Eve. The stores are filled with teddy bears, candy shaped hearts, chocolates and cards of love. Flower shops and jewelry stores are overflowing. Restaurants have double stocked for the crowds. Yet, the sad reality is, some of you haven’t felt loved in a long time. It’s not that you haven’t tried, but you find yourself on the receiving end of hurt. You’ve fasted and prayed but still feeling fatigued and passed over. You’ve tried the relationship thing, sometimes giving the same person chance after chance and in return, nothing.

Right now, you’re probably looking at a text or inbox from somebody of your past and you’re contemplating answering because you’re longing for love. Well beloved, before you make a rash decision to accept the chocolate, respond to the “Happy Valentine’s Day. You know I’ve never stopped loving you” text, take them up on their offer of dinner or open the door to your past; stop and think. Before you get under the influence of drugs, alcohol, peer pressure, lust and/or plain stupidity and do something you might regret; stop and think. How did the handle you, the last time? If it left you with unhappy tears, weight and the thought of acting out; STOP! You don’t need a warm body, a shabby promise or a generic gift to make you feel loved; love your doggone self.

Sure, it’s easy for me to say when I have a whole husband at home who loves me but baby, I love me too. I didn’t always, though. Y’all know my story. I went through a period of messing up because of me. I didn’t feel worthy of anything because I didn’t love the face I’d see. Child, I had to survive me. Now, baby, you can’t tell me nothing about me. I love me! Every pound, scar, flaw and everything else. I had to love me otherwise I’d keep accepting anything, dishing out anything, falling for the lust disguised as love and I’d never know what true love is; even from God.

Look, I’m not trying to be in your business, I only want you healed. See, truth is, some of you have spouses or in a relationship yet you don’t feel loved. It has nothing to do with said spouse, it’s due to the inward battle with self. Maybe it’s because of past abuse, loss and mistakes. Maybe it’s family issues and you never felt love by your parents. Maybe you don’t feel worthy because of how you used to treat people. Beloved, forgive self and LOVE YOU!

This Valentine’s Day, if you’re not in a relationship; buy your own flowers and chocolates and get dressed and take yourself out on a date. Don’t rush into something because you’re ready for someone to occupy the other side of the bed. Don’t rush because you’re ready for your last name to be changed. And don’t hate love.

Bible shares in Matthew 22, verses 36-39, when the Pharisees asked Jesus; “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And He said to him, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’ “This is the great and foremost commandment. “The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’

The love you have for self, is the love you’ll give. How are you loving you?

Daily Devotional – 5/3/16 “Be kind!”

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It’s a new month and we’ve lived to see it! That’s something to be excited and grateful for. I know I am because as of today, I am 39 years +1 day young and I’ve been married 18 years + 1 day. Isn’t God amazing? I’ve been overjoyed in the loved received by all and that’s because you don’t have to be nice to me. Think about it. We live in a world, now days that we don’t even expect folk to be nice. We’re shocked when we walk into a fast food restaurant and actually get good customer service. We are surprised when someone holds the door open for us or are blown away when someone says thank you or simply apologizes. This is because we live in a world where somebody might just kill you if you reject their advances; husbands are killings wives, children are killing other children, wives are not respecting their husbands because they don’t respect themselves, people are becoming the victims of hate crimes because of the color of their skin or their sexual preference and Christians are doing everything but being Christian-like. We live in a society were woman are okay with being misused and abused as long as they have a piece of a man. We are raising children in homes where we bash the other parent in front of them. We are working in a world where folk would rather throw you under the bus than see you get promoted. And we worship in a world where Saints are more worried about their traditions than they are God’s word and don’t mind hurting your feelings over it. What in the world is going on?

Where did we lose ourselves? When did we forget what the word says in Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you?” Why do we find it easy to show love to strangers and not those in our same household? Why are we so quick to demean each other instead of lifting each other? Why is it easier to spew hate rather than help? What if you don’t live to see tomorrow, would you be satisfied with how you lived today? If you were to need help tomorrow, would you have someone willing to come? Matthew 7:12 says, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Treat folk how you want to be treated, at all times! Be kind and then kindness will be returned to you. Give and it shall be given back to you. Respect and respect you shall be given. Forgive because in your forgiving them, God forgives you. So, let me start by saying this… Thank you for allowing me to encourage you. Thank you for taking the time to say happy birthday/anniversary on yesterday. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for your kindness towards me. And if there’s anything that I’ve said or done that is not pleasing, please forgive me. I pray that you’ll find it in your heart to share love, kindness and laughter on today. Not just in the streets but in your home as well. Be kind because you never know when the next person needs it!