I’ve often wondered what would make a person put their business out on the internet for the world to see. I mean does it do you any good to vent one week about your boyfriend cheating and then 2 days later you are the happiest you’ve ever been? Then, you have the nerve to let everyone know that your wife isn’t any good but get mad when someone comments calling her trifling. Can you honestly be upset at the fact that folks are talking about you or that they are dipping all in your Kool-Aid when you’ve allowed them in your home and told them the flavor you’re drinking? Social Networking was designed to network with family who may live out of town, friends you’ve lost contact with since high school or those co-workers you used to work with before you changed jobs. It’s not for your baby momma, baby daddy, pooh bear and sugar dumpling’s business. I’ve learned the only way to keep a secret is to keep it between you and you because no one can tell what they don’t know. My daughter asked the other day, after seeing the news, if I would give my boss the password to my Facebook if he asked and she was surprised that I said yes. When she asked me why, I told her that there was nothing on there that I would be ashamed to own. See, if I can’t live what I speak then I am not pleasing to God. Am I perfect, no but I am a work in progress and I don’t need anything negative added to my list when I stand before God at judgment.
Don’t you know that when you put stuff on the internet you can never get it back? Yea, I know that your sister made you mad because she didn’t give you the $10 you asked for but that’s no reason for you to blast her on Facebook. Yea, you’re still mad at your mom because she wouldn’t keep the kids last weekend but that’s still no reason for you to tweet about it because they are your kids and your responsibility! See, folks aren’t looking at the ones you’re talking about but they are looking at you and your character and if you don’t know this, your character speaks for you. Why, because character is defined as the set of qualities that make somebody or something distinctive, especially somebody’s qualities of mind and feeling or qualities that makes somebody or something interesting or attractive. When all you do is curse and argue with all misspelled words, for the world to see, then your character is tarnished. When every picture you post is of you half naked with your butt cheeks hanging out, your character is tarnished. If you are always looking for trouble and you don’t care who knows it then your character is tarnished. If you aren’t ashamed for the world to know that you sleep with anybody so you post it on social networking sites, then your character is tarnished. And if you don’t know what tarnished means its damage to somebody’s reputation or good name, or become damaged. Now, would you buy or accept a damaged piece of anything? I would think not.
Stop allowing social networking to damage your character. Your character defines who you are and it also defines the children that you raise. If your mouth is filthy and disrespectful then how can you expect your daughter to talk like she got sense? If every time you talk to her daddy on the phone, you hang up and call him names, she’ll start calling him those same names because it’s all she hears from you. Who you are defines the children that you raise and if you don’t believe me, Matthew 7:17 says, “A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit,” or Matthew 12:33 that says, “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit.” Our children learn from their upbringing and from the things that we teach them but more from the things they see. If every time my daughter logs into Facebook, she see me arguing with folks and calling them all kinds of names, how can I tell her that when she does it it’s wrong? The only way for me to teach her how to be respectful of her mind, her body, her soul and of those around her, I have to show her by being a good example. Do I expect her to act this way all the time even when she is not around me, yes, but I know that probably doesn’t happen? However, if I build a solid foundation for her to build on, when she falls down or gets knocked off of it she will be able to get back on it. I refuse to be the type of person that allows a social networking site to define my character because I feel the need to fit into a certain stereotype. I post devotionals and thoughts daily and if folk choose not to like them they can delete me from their friend list.
We’ve got to get back to Social Networking and not social neck rolling. It doesn’t matter about the number of friends you have on Facebook or the number of followers on Twitter because God will only be concerned with the number you tried to bring to him. It doesn’t matter that you can curse really well although misspelling the majority of the words because God will curse you for the way you treat others. It doesn’t matter that you got a relationship on Facebook with the cutest boy that all the girls want because your relationship with God is the only one that will save your soul. Stop allowing mess to take you away from the message of God. Use social networking for what it is for and not for what you want it to be. Stop acting foolish and damaging your character just because someone posted something on your wall when all you have to do is delete it and them. Stop putting yourself out there like a crazy person because that will be how folks will see you. When you have to wonder why you can’t get a job, look at your profile picture because it could be the game changer. When you wonder why folk don’t call you when they need guidance or prayer, check the statuses you post. When you invite folks to a party and they never come check the guest list. Your social networking profile speaks volumes about the person that you are. You can’t expect someone to call you because you own a business and they have a hard time reading what you’re posting because of the shorthand and misspelled words. You can’t expect folks to invite you to a family affair when you’re half naked with a joint in your mouth everywhere you go. You damage your character and you are the only one standing in the way of your blessings because of the BS you keep involving yourself in. Yea, it’s social networking but it’s your character.