Daily Devotional – 3/2/18 “My worth is nonnegotiable!”

When you go to an auction, the auctioneer usually sets a minimum opening bid on the item being auctioned. This minimum is generally set based on a percentage of the item’s fair market value and it is fixed, meaning there is no negotiating the starting bid. This is because the auctioneer has done their research and know the value of the item being sold. Then a person can choose to bid or not, it’s totally their choice. However, their decision is based on also knowing the value of the item and whether the lowest amount the auctioneer is willing to accept, fits. Now, if people go through all of this for the sale of material things, why in the heaven are you negotiating the worth of your virtue? You do realize not knowing your worth allows a person to lowball your value, right? Think about it. A man or woman is only going to give you what you willingly accept. And get this, they can know you’re valuable but why offer to pay you like top shelf when you’re willing to accept the knock off price? You have to know your worth and stick to it, even if there is a long period of time when no one is willing to buy.

As an author, I see electronic books priced from $5.99 to $13.99 and they sell. You know why? It’s because the author isn’t willing to compromise. Either a reader buys it or they don’t. So, why are you willing to compromise your worth? It’s doesn’t matter if you are selling something materialistic or if you are looking for a relationship, STOP LOWBALLING YOUR VALUE! My friend TJ Jefferson, a marketing specialist, recently wrote a book titled “Stop Being Disrespectful by Low-balling Your Fees: A guide to pricing your service-based business within industry standards,” where she says, “We aren’t making a real profit because we are significantly under charging for the services we provide.” STOP! You’ve got to know your worth, ma’am and sir. I don’t care if it’s a hair bow made out of dollar store ribbon, know what it is worth. And you doggone sure better know who you are and the value you can add to a relationship. Have the conversations and if they aren’t willing to pay it, respectfully decline. Sure, you can have negotiations but don’t go below your minimum. I don’t know about you but I know my worth and it is nonnegotiable. What about you?

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Daily Devotional – 11/1/11 “And you call yourself a parent!”

In the bible, Psalm 127:3, says “Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him.”  Now, I know that some were unexpected, unplanned and came at the most inopportune time, but you had to know that having sex could cause pregnancy right?  Whether you used protection, the only 100% way to avoid this is abstaining.  For some, the pregnancies(y) were planned and others a trap set to keep a man.  However, your child (ren) came about, they are here and God blessed YOU with him, her or them.

So why do you treat them so bad, ignore them, mistreat them, throw them away and give up on them?  This is not for the parent(s) that will go to the ends of the earth for their child, willing & able to do all they can for their child (even when they do wrong) or punish them when they need it.  But this is for the deadbeat moms or dads who actually calls themselves parents but never acts like it.  How can you expect your 16-year-old daughter to go to school, take care of younger siblings, cook and clean and then work?  Then when she gets a job, you expect her to give you her entire check when she has to work because you told her that you weren’t taking care of her anymore.  Or, you’ve been drawing social security because her dad died and you haven’t once given it to her or taken care of her the way that you should have but as soon as she becomes 18 and starts drawing the check herself, you want half or all and then gets mad and put her out! Chile, stop it! You should be ashamed of yourself.  You think that you’re being blessed by hurting a blessing that God has given you?  No, ma’am, God doesn’t work like that.  1st Timothy 5:8 says But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.” And you have to wonder why your blessings and prayers are hindered. 

We wonder why young women in this day & time are so reckless and not able to maintain a job or home, when they haven’t been taught.  We expect them to cook dinner but never take the time to show them how.  We expect them to clean a bathroom or kitchen spotless, make a bed or handle household business; but never take the time to show them how.  We expect them to be good wives and mothers, but we never show them how to be that.  Then we sit back and judge them so harshly when the bible states in Titus 2:3-4, “Likewise, older women are to show their reverence for God by their behavior. They are not to be gossips or addicted to alcohol, but to be examples of goodness. That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.”  How can we expect them to be faithful to one man, when you have them running in and out of your door?  How can we expect them to take care of their bodies, when you rarely wash yours?  How can we expect them to save themselves for marriage when you’re telling them they were born with a money-maker?  Girl, sit down somewhere and raise your daughter to be a women after God’s heart, a Proverbs 31 woman!

We wonder why young men are careless and always talking down to a young lady when they haven’t been taught how to be respectful?  It doesn’t matter that a father or male figure wasn’t around, because mom can do just as well.  You expect him to be a man, when you constantly tell him he won’t be nothing like his no-good daddy.  You expect him to be a great husband but you’ve never taught him how to be a man of his household because you’ve never taught him how to care for himself, wash his own clothes or balance a checkbook.  You tell him that he needs to fend for himself and then wonder why he is out robbing at 14.  You don’t tell him about the importance of school and then wonder why he drops out at 16.  You don’t teach him about the importance of waiting to have sex or the safe way to do it and then cry when he has a STD or 6 babies by the age of 18.  Be a momma!  Be a dad!  Stop acting like you’re a teenager when you’re in your 30s or older.  Stop club hopping every weekend, drinking and smoking like its ok.  Teach your children how to be productive young men and young women. 

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads, Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”  Didn’t grandma raise you right on the word of God?  Wasn’t momma there to raise you better than the way you raise your children?  Why are you so quick to throw in the towel when your child makes mistakes but you’re quick to raise someone else’s child?  Kids, young & old, will make mistakes because no one is perfect but God.  Haven’t you realized by now that once you’re down and old, these same children you’re walking over will be responsible for you?  Don’t be too quick to give up on them because they may just return the favor and then you’ll be sitting in a nursing home crying because no one will visit you. 

Proverbs 22:6, “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”  Even if they do stray, if you build a solid foundation from the beginning, they’ll come back.  It’s like a house that is blown away in a tornado.  Usually the only thing left is the foundation which allows you to rebuild.  It is the same way with children.  Start off with a strong foundation of Christ and his commandments and if they ever leave, they will have something to return to and to rebuild on.  I know that times get hard and sometimes you feel like giving up, but someone cared for you when you needed it.  You can’t be mad or sad when they are consumed by the streets if that’s the only choice you’ve given them.  Stop giving up so easily on your child.  Sometimes you have to take your hands off but that’s only when you have placed them in God’s hands.