Daily Devotional – 11/24/14 “He who finds a wife …”

Now, this isn’t a women’s bashing devotional but my role is to teach and encourage and that’s what I shall do. I don’t know why God is leading me this way today but the bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Please don’t get mad at me, I’m simply the messenger but the only reasons you haven’t found a husband yet is because you’re not wife material, you’re not able to be found, you’re angry and unapproachable and/or your standards are too high. Let me break this down …

  • 1. The verse above says, “Whoso finds a wife,” which means you are supposed to be already groomed to be a wife. You’re supposed to know how to take care of your man, your house and then children. Oh but now days, you find it cute to not know how to cook and clean and you wonder why you can’t find a husband. Genesis 2:18 says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
  • 2. A man can’t find you if you can’t be found. I am not saying you should put yourself on blast for the world to see but every now and then, get out and mingle with friends, stop by the break room at work, go to bible study or Sunday school and worship service because you might just be missing your husband. Refer back to Proverbs 18:22.
  • 3. Stop being angry ALL the time. Stop nagging! Stop belittling every man you see. He is not your ex who did you wrong so stop treating him as such. What makes you think a man wants to come home after working all day (whether in the world or church) to a home with a nagging woman. Proverbs 19:13 says, “…and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.”
  • 4. Stop setting high standards for a man that are higher than the ones for yourself. You want him to work but you don’t. You want him to bring home the bacon but you can’t cook it. You want a house but won’t clean it. You want him to be God fearing yet you don’t want to go to church. Proverbs 12:4 says, “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones.”

This won’t be for everybody but it’s for somebody who has been praying for a helpmate. Someone is praying for the state of their marriage, it may be for you. Please understand; I am not blaming the issues of your relationship or the lack of one on you, I am simply stating this from a woman’s point, today. In order for us, as women, to be a helpmate to a man we have to first help ourselves. This is why we have to be prepared to be wives because marriage is hard enough as is, the last thing you need when fighting the world and the enemy is to be fighting at home. And please, please; do this for me … stop waiting for Boaz, he’s dead; wait on your husband that God has already designed for you! But you have to be ready to be a wife! For he who finds a wife finds a good thing!

Daily Devotional – 1/31/14 “How are you living?”

We’ve got to get back to handling the kingdom’s business. As women, it’s time out for fighting over people and things that don’t belong to us because the only time you fight for something, when it’s yours. If he can’t put a ring on your finger to make you his wife, he isn’t worth fighting over because Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” If she can’t treat you like you’re husband material, she isn’t worth arguing over because 1 Corinthians 11:9, says “For indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake,” and If he or she can’t contribute to the household then they aren’t worth fighting over either because 2 Thessalonians 3:10 says “For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.” But you know all this don’t you? We’ve got so accustomed to this world that know we post all our business on social media and then got the nerve to be mad when someone says something about you. Oh but let me tell you, you can spend your tax money on whoever you want to because it’s yours. You can date, hook up with and fool around with whomever you choose because it’s your business. However, one thing I must say, YOU BETTER GET IT TOGETHER BEFORE YOUR TIME IS UP! Yea, we are spending way too much time on meaningless mess, foolish fighting, lavish lying, secret spying and blatant backstabbing than working God’s business. So many folks are dying and being killed when they are here at 2PM and gone at 2AM. It’s time out for playing church.

I sometimes wonder what God would say if he walked into our Sunday worship service. I mean, we are raising children who can’t pray because we’re too busy to teach them how. But get this … we teach them that it’s ok to play around with your cellphone during worship service because most times we are playing with ours. We have hell in us all week and then are the first ones shouting when your song is played. You gossip all day Saturday about the “church folk” and then get to church and tell your neighbor that you love them and they can’t do a thing about it. You tipping on Friday night to the motels and clubs and then is the loudest one singing, I love the Lord, He heard my cry! Baby, God isn’t in the midst of your mess! It’s time now to get it together! Live the life worth speaking about so that no one has to stand over your casket and lie about you being a good person because this life you live is the funeral that you’ll one day have. Live your life so that a sinner can see the God in you because sometimes the closest they get to God is through you. I pray that we all be ready when our time comes and even though God promised us 70 and even 80 years, we sometimes don’t make it. You may not have tomorrow to get it right, so start right now because Mark 13:32 says, “But concerning that day or that hour, no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.”