Daily Devotional – 7/3/18 “Overstaying your welcome!”

You cannot blame folk for the conditions you find yourself in, when you are the one overstaying your welcome. In Matthew 10, when Jesus sends the 12 apostles out, He did so giving them authority over unclean spirits AND with instructions. He told them don’t travel the road of the Gentiles or enter the Samaritan towns but seek the lost sheep of Israel. He told them what to preach, what to carry and not carry, what house(s) to stay in and those to leave. Bible shares in Matthew 10:11-14, “Whatever town or village you enter, find out who is worthy and stay at his house until you move on. As you enter the house, greet its occupants. If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you. And if anyone will not welcome you or heed your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town.” Had they overstayed, they would have been outside of Jesus’ instructions. Some of you are finding yourself in unbearable conditions because you didn’t follow the instructions. You know God told you not to go but you did anyway. However, you didn’t just go and visit but your silly self moved in and now you’re crying, acting like you don’t know why you can’t sleep. You weren’t supposed to be there. God showed you the signs and you still went. God answered your questions and you still haven’t packed up and left. Stop staying in placing you are not welcome.

How do you know you’ve overstayed your welcome? You’re uncomfortable. Think about it. How well do you sleep in an uncomfortable place? Can you truly get peace in a place that is painful? Can you let your guard down in a place you don’t feel safe? I can answer it. NO! Some years ago, when I first accepted my calling, God told me it was time for us to move from the apartment we were living in. Our lease was up and although we had signed a new lease, it couldn’t be found. We didn’t realize it but it was God working. He was forcing us out of our uncomfortable place. And because we were obedient, our life changed suddenly. I have shared this before but we’d overstayed our welcome and I knew it but I was being stubborn. Yet, He told us to move. No lie, one weekend we packed our entire apartment without having a place to stay and it was the best decision we could have ever made. When we stopped overstaying our welcome, our life changed. Who are you that has overstayed your welcome? Who are you that is ignoring God’s command to move? Keep staying, if you want but you cannot blame folk for the conditions you find yourself in when you are the one who will not follow instructions and overstaying your welcome. Proverbs 25:17, “Don’t visit your neighbors too often, or you will wear out your welcome.”

Daily Devotional – 3/20/18 “Shake off the dust!”

Sometimes you have to take your loss, chalk it up to lesson learned, shake the dust from your feet and move on. Sure, you can sit and cry over the mistakes, beat yourself over the should haves and could haves and even wallow in your pity but what good will that do? You were denied, you didn’t get the promotion, you couldn’t get approved for the car you wanted, the church didn’t choose you as pastor, you were not selected as chairperson, the relationship didn’t work, the marriage failed, the medicine didn’t heal you and etc. but you cannot give up. What you can do, you can make notes of what didn’t work, this time, and try again. Understand, it means more work on your part but it’ll be worth it. This means you may have to do more research, take more time to get you together, go outside of your comfort zone, shed a few more tears and hear a few more no’s. However, eventually, it will pay off. Ask me how I know. It’s because I’ve been there. Even more transparency, there are still some days things don’t work out in my favor but I keep grinding.

I know I’ve shared a little about my struggle but it doesn’t go away overnight. There have been plenty of times I’ve had to cut my losses and move on. Did it hurt? Heck yeah but it pushes me and it makes me stronger. It also teaches me to value my worth. Look, I am a female preacher in a society where most say a woman can’t preach. This means I either don’t get an invitation to the table or if I do, I am paid significantly less than a man. Does that stop me? Nope, I simply shake the dust from my feet and move on. In the bible, when Jesus sent the disciples out to minister, He tells them in Matthew 10, to enter a place and find someone who is worthy and announce a blessing. If it turns out, they are indeed worthy, let your blessing stand but if they aren’t take it back. AND if they will not receive you or listen to you, shake the dust from your feet and leave that house or town. In other words, stop staying where you aren’t welcomed and stop wallowing in what you think is when you know it isn’t. If that’s a job, a relationship, a place of worship, a business, the grocery store or wherever. Cut your losses and move on because there is someone/something waiting on you elsewhere.