Now, this isn’t a women’s bashing devotional but my role is to teach and encourage and that’s what I shall do. I don’t know why God is leading me this way today but the bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Please don’t get mad at me, I’m simply the messenger but the only reasons you haven’t found a husband yet is because you’re not wife material, you’re not able to be found, you’re angry and unapproachable and/or your standards are too high. Let me break this down …
- 1. The verse above says, “Whoso finds a wife,” which means you are supposed to be already groomed to be a wife. You’re supposed to know how to take care of your man, your house and then children. Oh but now days, you find it cute to not know how to cook and clean and you wonder why you can’t find a husband. Genesis 2:18 says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
- 2. A man can’t find you if you can’t be found. I am not saying you should put yourself on blast for the world to see but every now and then, get out and mingle with friends, stop by the break room at work, go to bible study or Sunday school and worship service because you might just be missing your husband. Refer back to Proverbs 18:22.
- 3. Stop being angry ALL the time. Stop nagging! Stop belittling every man you see. He is not your ex who did you wrong so stop treating him as such. What makes you think a man wants to come home after working all day (whether in the world or church) to a home with a nagging woman. Proverbs 19:13 says, “…and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.”
- 4. Stop setting high standards for a man that are higher than the ones for yourself. You want him to work but you don’t. You want him to bring home the bacon but you can’t cook it. You want a house but won’t clean it. You want him to be God fearing yet you don’t want to go to church. Proverbs 12:4 says, “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones.”
This won’t be for everybody but it’s for somebody who has been praying for a helpmate. Someone is praying for the state of their marriage, it may be for you. Please understand; I am not blaming the issues of your relationship or the lack of one on you, I am simply stating this from a woman’s point, today. In order for us, as women, to be a helpmate to a man we have to first help ourselves. This is why we have to be prepared to be wives because marriage is hard enough as is, the last thing you need when fighting the world and the enemy is to be fighting at home. And please, please; do this for me … stop waiting for Boaz, he’s dead; wait on your husband that God has already designed for you! But you have to be ready to be a wife! For he who finds a wife finds a good thing!