Daily Devotional – 11/24/14 “He who finds a wife …”

Now, this isn’t a women’s bashing devotional but my role is to teach and encourage and that’s what I shall do. I don’t know why God is leading me this way today but the bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Please don’t get mad at me, I’m simply the messenger but the only reasons you haven’t found a husband yet is because you’re not wife material, you’re not able to be found, you’re angry and unapproachable and/or your standards are too high. Let me break this down …

  • 1. The verse above says, “Whoso finds a wife,” which means you are supposed to be already groomed to be a wife. You’re supposed to know how to take care of your man, your house and then children. Oh but now days, you find it cute to not know how to cook and clean and you wonder why you can’t find a husband. Genesis 2:18 says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
  • 2. A man can’t find you if you can’t be found. I am not saying you should put yourself on blast for the world to see but every now and then, get out and mingle with friends, stop by the break room at work, go to bible study or Sunday school and worship service because you might just be missing your husband. Refer back to Proverbs 18:22.
  • 3. Stop being angry ALL the time. Stop nagging! Stop belittling every man you see. He is not your ex who did you wrong so stop treating him as such. What makes you think a man wants to come home after working all day (whether in the world or church) to a home with a nagging woman. Proverbs 19:13 says, “…and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.”
  • 4. Stop setting high standards for a man that are higher than the ones for yourself. You want him to work but you don’t. You want him to bring home the bacon but you can’t cook it. You want a house but won’t clean it. You want him to be God fearing yet you don’t want to go to church. Proverbs 12:4 says, “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones.”

This won’t be for everybody but it’s for somebody who has been praying for a helpmate. Someone is praying for the state of their marriage, it may be for you. Please understand; I am not blaming the issues of your relationship or the lack of one on you, I am simply stating this from a woman’s point, today. In order for us, as women, to be a helpmate to a man we have to first help ourselves. This is why we have to be prepared to be wives because marriage is hard enough as is, the last thing you need when fighting the world and the enemy is to be fighting at home. And please, please; do this for me … stop waiting for Boaz, he’s dead; wait on your husband that God has already designed for you! But you have to be ready to be a wife! For he who finds a wife finds a good thing!

Daily Devotional – 7/26/13 “Pain hurts but it heals”

Who ever said pain doesn’t hurt lied! It’s a known fact that pain, no matter how big or small, hurts. Yet, the good part about it, it heals! Isn’t that great news? Yea, see when he dumped you and you spent those nights crying, feeling like your heart was breaking every time your phone vibrated and it wasn’t him and it felt like it would never mend; the pain hurt. Well, look at you now with your heart fixed, your mind is on loving someone, this time, who actually loves you back and treats you like the woman you are meant to be treated like and now you realized that although the pain hurt then, it’s healed now. Yea, you’ve never felt pain like the pain you felt when momma or daddy died but then as time went on, the pain started to heal and now you’re able to look at their picture without crying. That pain you feel from being lied on, it’ll heal if you let it. That pain you feel from being knocked down by folk you trusted, it’ll heal if you let it. That pain you feel from that sickness in your body, it’ll heal if you let it. That pain you feel every time you get used by that person that leaves to go home to the one they actually belong to, it’ll heal if you let it. That pain you feel from being fired from your job when you were the best worker they had, it’ll heal if you let it. That pain you feel when you see him being a daddy over there but not to yours, it’ll heal if you let it. The pain you feel from being mad at the things that happened to you in the past, it’ll heal if you let it.

How do you let it, it’s simple; LET IT GO! Folks will lie on you and use you until they use you up but it can stop, if you allow it too. Stop allowing them access to you, stop agreeing to go if you don’t want too, stop accepting what you don’t want, stop giving what you don’t have, stop running your mouth when you should be quiet, start listening more instead of tuning folk out and stop putting your heart in places you know can break it. Pain hurts but it can heal. This is why God said in Luke 17:19, “Rise and go your way; your faith has made you well.” Rise as in get up; go your way as in walk on because Faith assures us of things we expect and convinces us of the existence of things we cannot see (Hebrews 11:1). That sickness, stop claiming it as your way of life because if you keep saying you’re sick then you will be sick. Claim your healing, your deliverance and your break through because Jesus tells us in Matthew 17:20, “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” Stop being someone’s second, third or fourth choice because yours is out there, if you stop blocking their way to you. How do I know this? Well, my bible tells me in Genesis 2:18, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” This says, fit for him not them! Oh, that pain hurts now but it’ll heal. Stop bringing up the past, stop dwelling on that termination paper, stop looking for ways to still feel the hurt; let it go! And take note, if a boy chooses not to be a daddy to the child he fathered, there’s nothing you can do to change it. Yea, you can run down to get child support but it still doesn’t make him a dad. He can post pictures on Facebook or Instagram but it still doesn’t make him a father. Stop trying to make him into something he’s not. This is why you have to be careful who you lay down with because that girl could be your baby’s momma and that boy, your baby’s daddy. Yea, pain hurts especially when it’s new but it’ll heal if you allow the bandage to stay in place and the ample time for the healing. Healing doesn’t come overnight so yea, the pain hurts now but it’ll heal.