Daily Devotional – 8/31/17 “Be mindful of those!”

There is somebody, probably one who is real close to you, underestimating the fire in your belly. They look supportive, they sound loyal, they show up to the celebrations, they comment their congratulations and they even wear the shirt with your logo. But deep down, they do not really believe you’ll do it. They don’t have faith in your ability to accomplish all the things you have planned and they are only standing close by just in case you do. See, if they ‘act’ supportive, they will feel obligated to be blessed by your blessing. Please note, this is not for those true supporter who are there through the wins and the losses but these are those who make the sly remarks thinking you didn’t hear them. These are those who always agree and then says but. These are those who say, “I’m with whatever you want” instead of giving you sound advice. These are those who half smile when you show them the speech you’ve prepared in advance. These are those who do not understand why you’re thanking God for something you haven’t gotten yet. These are those who question your loyalty to worship. Be mindful of those!

This is why you have to be careful the labels you place on folk and those you allow to be placed on you because a friend has a responsibility to love at all times and a brother/sister to be there in difficult times. Don’t take my word but trust God’s because the bible says in Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a difficult time?” This means when I mess up, you don’t leave me but you still love me. This means when you fall short, I still love you. This means you love me even when I am weak. This means I still love you even though you promised not to drink again but did. This means you love me when you catch me buying that stuff I said I’d never use again. This means I still love you even when you take your trifling spouse back. This means you’ll love me despite my choices. This means I will love you even when you are dirty and you will love me, mess and all because we love one another at ALL times. This also means, family, you don’t allow meaningless mess to divide our relationship because a brother (sister) was born for adversity. This means you may be mad at me, sister, but you will still show up in my crisis. I may be angry at you, brother, but I am still coming when you call. You may not like me, sister, but you love me enough to fight for me. I may get sick of you begging, brother, but I’ll still help when I can. You may get tired of me messing up, sister, but you will still clean me up. I may chastise you but I’ll still feed you. And we may not talk every day but when we do and you hear the pain in my voice, you show up. That’s a true sister/brother-friend. Be mindful of those, they are the ones you keep!

Daily Devotional – 6/16/15 “Friends?”

I was supposed to start a new job today. Yep, in a new building, across town, with a new group of people doing something totally different from what I’ve been doing the last 20 years but … I was told two weeks ago that the waiver I needed was not going to be approved due to “business needs” and although I could harp on that, I won’t. Not many people on my job knew but those who did asked me, “Kisha, how can you be so calm about this?” I replied, “It’s not my battle.” See, I’ve learned that not everybody around me is praying for my good. I’ve come to realize that not everybody close to me is excited about the good things happening in my life. There are even folks, on this job, who say they are happy to see me go but when it came time wouldn’t let me leave. I’m alright with it. I just thank God for giving me the strength to keep climbing out of the valley I sometimes find myself in because you do know that the valley won’t always be a valley, don’t you? Think about it – when it rains, don’t they fill up? Which means, we got to get up out of it eventually (if you want too). I even thank God for the strength to keep climbing the mountain because I could get weary but I won’t. I could get defeated at those passing me by but I don’t. I could get sidetracked by the fact that I haven’t made it to the top yet but as long as there is a top to get to, I have somewhere to go so I keep my hand in the struggle! I’m on my way! What about you?

Baby, listen – stop worrying about what folk are saying because there is someone who you are probably texting right now, who is rolling their eyes at a blessing you just received. There is someone, you probably call your ride or die who is wishing for the house you got instead of rejoicing in the fact they could be next. There is someone, who you are calling your boy, who is eyeing your spouse trying to figure out why she would want to be with someone like you. Somebody you’re telling all your business too is the one speaking negative over your life and you are still trying to figure out how the enemy keeps getting in. Somebody you ride with is the one throwing salt in your game and you wonder why it doesn’t taste right. Somebody you’re sleeping with is the one blocking all your blessing – be careful who you lie down with! Somebody you’re churching with is the one keeping up all the mess – just because they look Holy, don’t make them sanctified! You have to be careful of the company you keep. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” Chile, life is hard and it’s even harder trying to find friends amongst enemies but it can be done. How do you know a friend? It’s easy for the bible says in Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” A friend helps, hopes, loves, encourages, tells you your faults, when you’re wrong or right, will be there through good and bad and doesn’t allow mess to mess with what God has put together. Be careful who you call a friend. Not everyone is deserving of the title!