Daily Devotional – 10/16/18 “Who are you?”

I watched the movie “Nappily Ever After,” on Netflix last night. Good movie. I absolutely loved the fact, the ending (without giving the movie away) wasn’t like all movies that ends unrealistically. I say this because not every reality ends happily ever after. For those of you who have never heard of this movie, it’s about Violet who has been raised to believe she needs to always be perfect, especially when it comes to her hair. She’s get up extra early to make sure her boyfriend woke up to her being “perfect.” She thought she was giving him what he wanted until he told her, being with her felt like they’d been on their first date for two years. The movie showed how men would stop and look at her when she was perfect but didn’t even bat an eye when she was going through an identity crisis. Reality hit her in the face and it made her take a step back. Won’t life do you like this? But here is what I got from the movie. It wasn’t that men were looking at when she was “perfect” and ignoring her when she wasn’t. They were looking because when she was “perfect” she was bold yet imperfect, she walked as if life was dragging her. In her pursuit for perfection, she was unapologetic and she walked with her head held high but at the first sign of crisis, she folded.

You want to know why? Because she didn’t know the person behind the hair and makeup and when she removed those things, she was forced to come face to face with who she really was. And because she didn’t know her, she didn’t know how to love and embrace her. And for some of us, we are in the same shoes. You’ve had the façade up for so long, pretending to be strong but if the right gust of wind come, it will knock you clean over. You jump from relationship to relationship because you don’t know your identity of singleness to even cuddle it. You walk around smiling, inwardly broken. Helpful to everybody else because you’re afraid of admitting you need help too. You accept every invitation, go to every party, dressing up and playing the part because truth is, you’re afraid of the voices when you’re by yourself and it’s quiet. You don’t know you and that’s dangerous. You don’t know you and that’s detrimental to who you can become. Who are you? No, I mean for real, who are you? When the wig and makeup is off, who are you? When the suit is thrown across the bed, who are you? When the lights are off, who are you? When the church doors are closed, who are you? Without social media, who are you? Without your title, awards and accolades who are you? Do you even know? Bible shares in Ephesians 2:10, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.”


Daily Devotional – 4/30/13 “And you are?”

Just who you are supposed to be, so why do you doubt your God given abilities? You let folk talk you out of your blessing like a car salesman talking you out of more money. You let folk decide what you’ll do with your life instead of being the best you that you can be. You let folk tell you that you won’t ever do this or you’ll be just like him/her but what do you want? It doesn’t matter if your mom used to walk the streets, you don’t have to follow in her footsteps because your footprints won’t match hers anyway. So what if your dead was a drug addict, it doesn’t mean you have to be because your fingerprints won’t match his anyway! Don’t you know that God says (me paraphrasing) “Before I allowed your dad’s sperm to meet with your mom’s egg, I knew who you were?” Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Yes, God knew the path AND the detour you would take in this life because He paved it! Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Why would He allow you to be abused, because it made you stronger and an advocate against violence? Why did He allow you to get a taste of the world only to tell you not to conform to it, because He wanted you to then allow the world to conform to you? This is why Proverbs 16:4 says, “The Lord has made everything for its purpose, even the wicked for the day of trouble.” Oh, I just wish you could see the potential that you have. I just wish you could see the good in yourself when you look in the mirror. I just wish you could have enough faith in yourself the way you do in that chair you’re sitting in. For once trust the purpose that God has for you the way you trust yourself to walk through the house in the dark. You are just who God made you. The mistakes of the past no longer matter unless you allow them too. Who people call you only matters if you answer to it. Stop trying to please folk and please God because once you do this, He will be pleased to please you. (You’ll get that in a minute) While you’re trying to worry about folks you need to realize that the one behind you wants your spot, the one in front of you don’t want you to take theirs and the ones on the same level as you is trying to get before you so they’ll say anything to make you doubt yourself but like Jesus asked in Matthew 14:31, “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” So how will you answer when someone ask, “And you are?”