Daily Devotional “3/18/16 – Stop!”

Stop keeping score of those who have hurt you. If you keep focusing on how many people have hurt you, you’ll never be able to count those who don’t. Stop trying to hurt people before they hurt you because then you’ll end up bitter and alone. Everyone isn’t that one, two or maybe more who’ve hurt you. Quit treating them as such. Break the habit of being the one to win every argument! Do you know that it doesn’t matter who wins as long as you resolve the issue? If you focus on who started it, you’ll never get over it. Deal with the situation, apologize and don’t bring it up again. This is why we have so many families who are being cursed by the generation of hurt, bitterness and anger that has been passed down generation after generation. Folk leave the church mad because they didn’t get the position they wanted and now everybody in the family hates that church. Bitter mothers teach their daughters how to be bitter instead of teaching them to be better. Deadbeat dads teach sons have to grow up being deadbeat instead of showing them how to be a better dad. A family will teach hostility instead of holiness. Parents are passing down the mentality of get them before they get you instead of teaching to love your neighbors.

What is going on? When will we stop the generation of being a ‘welfare family’? When will we break the chain of abuser that’s going from man to man in the family? When will we destroy the yoke of being abused that has held on to every daughter in the family? When will we knock the hell out of the enemy instead of allowing him to live in our homes? When will we break the tradition of having bad credit and no job? When will we stop holding on to the things that hurt momma and daddy that are now defeating us? When will we let go of the stuff and people we’re allowing to hold us hostage. When will we walk out of the personal prison of pain we’ve allowed ourselves to be housed in? When will be let go of the rope that has us bound? I don’t know if you recognize this or not but today is the day for you to do it. All you have to do is let go, get up, get out and try! Yes, it’s going to hurt because it’s what you’re used to but you may just find you like it the new norm. Yea, it may be uncomfortable at first but give yourself time to get used to it. Stop making excuses, stop trying to find ways to stay in your hurt and stop looking for any reason to go back there. If it hasn’t worked in all this time, it won’t start now! Do better because you want better. Forgive yourself, forgive them and move on! I promise that you’ll feel much better when you do.

Daily Devotional – 9/10/14 “Love doesn’t hurt!”

I am not about to jump on the bandwagon of bashing men over domestic violence or blaming women who stay in abusive relationships because I’ve never been in a position to ever get out of one so I don’t know how one feels. However I do know this … LOVE DOES NOT HURT! Yes, words hurts, fists hurts, beatings hurts, wounds hurts but love does not. I don’t know what it feels like to be hit by my husband but I also don’t know what it feels like to hit my husband because I’ve never done it either; respect goes both ways. Listen, it’s time out for keeping things to ourselves. I know grandma used to say you keep family business at home but baby, there are some things that needs to be talked about outside the home. You have teenagers getting their butts kicked at school by these knucklehead boys and they are too scared to come home and tell somebody out of fear of getting their butt beat at home. Teach the kids that home is their safe place and if not home, then at least give them a safe place at somebody’s church. And please stop putting your personal feelings in place when it comes to their worship experience. Just because you ran away from the church instead of dealing with your demons, don’t stop them from getting the worship experience they need; break that generational curse … TODAY! It has to be destroyed. Haven’t you seen the news? Our children are dying by the minute and most of them without a church home which means without the saving grace of God; this has to stop.

This domestic violence demon is running rampant in our community and it is taking the lives of mothers and fathers which mean it is ultimately taking the lives of the children that are being left behind. Y’all we’ve got to destroy it and send it back to the pits of hell from where it came. How? Pray it off of the backs of the men and women who it so easily attaches itself too. How? Women; pray over, under, beside and in front of your man! Men; pray over, under, beside and in front of your woman! Stop letting any and everything into your relationship! Stop letting any and every one into your home! Stop being a hellmate and start being a helpmate! Stop listening to everybody who says they have something to say. Stop hearing every rumor that is spoken about your spouse. And please stop lying down with just anybody! If he or she is a little possessive in the beginning, it’ll only get worse; take heed to the warning signs and if he or she has threatened before, listen. It doesn’t matter if you have a position or not because abuse is abuse and if you’re dead, your casket will look the same as everybody else just a different color. Don’t be embarrassed, be alive. Love doesn’t hurt. Get out, get help!

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.