Daily Devotional – 11/25/14 “He who finds a wife … finds favor!”

Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Now men, not only do you find a wife but you obtain favor from God. Do you not understand how big that is? When you find your wife, you also receive unmerited (that’s undeserved) favor from God and all you did was find the one person God made for you. Yea, I know you think you’re doing something because you’ve been shacking with her for 10 years but don’t you want your favor? I know you think if it ain’t broke why fix it but look again, it’s actually broken and needs fixing. Oh, you’re listening to the folk who say she’ll change once she gets the ring and the paper? Then she isn’t your wife because if you’re already living together then you’re already doing married folk things and you should be committed to each other.

    How do you find you wife?

  • 1. Release the demons of your past. You are not your absentee, alcoholic, drug addicted, or abusive father or mother (if that applies). You are not what society has deemed you to be. You can be exactly who God has destined you to be, if only you believe in yourself. Your past does not matter so stop allowing society to make you think it does. God made you in His image and Ephesians 4:31 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”
  • 2. You have to be ready to be a husband. 1 Timothy 5:8 says, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” The worst thing you can do is take on the responsibility of a husband without being ready.
  • 3. Look for her. But you must have your heart in God in order for Him to lead you to your wife because when you go looking through your natural eyes, the enemy will have lust looking like love and then you’ll be tied to someone who will cause you hell the rest of your natural life. And please don’t go get someone else wife, she isn’t yours! Proverbs 18:22.
  • 4. Cherish her, don’t hurt her. Colossians 3:19 says, “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” No one has a right to put their hands on their spouse whether male or female. If you need help, get it!

This is for both men and women – STOP! Stop giving up every time things get hard. Stop allowing folk into your household, into your marriage and into your relationship. Stop telling all your business to your family and friends. You forgive, they don’t. Stop arguing and fighting! Learn how to hash out stuff like grown folk because when you don’t, you raise children who argue and fight. Above all things, keep God as the head. So many times in marriages we leave God out of it and then we expect Him to fix it when it’s bad but keep God as the head and allow Him to be the guide and He will be. It’s not going to be always easy; nothing is but hold on for he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord!

Daily Devotional – 2/14/14 “Then and now!”

My sister and I were having a conversation on last night about some of the things the bible speak on that are so hard to follow now. Most people still follow 1 Corinthians 11:3 that says, “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” Now, please understand I don’t have an issue with this verse however now days most men aren’t husband material and the wife surely isn’t a Proverbs 31 woman. (I’m just keeping it real.) See, the man wants to lie in the house all day while he sends his wife to work and then he calls himself the head but didn’t the bible say in 1 Timothy 5:8, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever?” And in 2 Thessalonians 3:10, “Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: “Those unwilling to work will not get to eat?”” Yes, in the bible days the men worked, provided, maintained the worship places, ruled and fought in wars while the women stayed home to maintain the home, bared and raised the children, cooked, cleaned and etc., so then the men could be the head in everything. Oh but now, it takes 2 sometimes 3 incomes to maintain the household so she has to work. Now, men aren’t being raised to be men so the women have to step up in order to make sure her family eats. Now, women aren’t being raised to be a wife because many don’t even know how to cook, clean and less known raise children so then the entire household is falling apart. Families don’t worship as a family because momma is going to church, daddy is staying in the bed and the children are being given a choice on whether to go or not. Some older men have an issue with women working in the church but they want them to pay their tithes, sing in the choir, usher, cook in the kitchen, make the announcements and print the programs. Isn’t that working? She even has to sometimes turn the lights off after the deacons leave.

All I’m saying is, we tailor scriptures to fit our lives every day and these are no different. No sir, no ma’am; I don’t have an issue with my husband being the head of our household even though I’m working as long as he’s the head of his household. (You’ll get that later!) I, also, don’t have a problem following his lead as long as I trust him to get us to the right destination. I also don’t have a problem standing behind him because then I’m better protected. And just for the record, being behind the man doesn’t make you less than a woman because no matter where you’re standing, your light of God should be shining bright enough to be seen. And as long as God is the head of your life and you’re allowing Him to run things, everything else will fall into place. Read and study the bible for yourself that way you’ll understand what is being taught which will then lead you to be a better man or woman of God.