God does have a plan and purpose for everything that he does, but you already know that right? Then why are you questioning him now? I know that he took momma and you weren’t ready but you do know that ready or not death will come? I know that you lost your job even though you never got a bad review, didn’t take a lot of sick days and was the most reliable but God did it so that you could start your career because that was just a job. I know that when it seems like you finally have things under control, 2 things go wrong but that’s just a test to see if your faith in God is still strong. When your husband walks out after 15 years together, that’s just a test to see if your trust in God is still working. When family hurts you and leaves you questioning their love for you, that’s just a test to see if your love for God is still present. When friends stab you in the front, back and side after all you’ve done for them, that’s simply God testing you to see how much you’ll do for him. Stop questioning and start rejoicing when folks leave because they are making room for the true folks God wants in your life so let them go and stop chasing them. Whatever is meant for you is for you and they will never leave especially when the times get hard or the fire gets too hot. See, a person who really cares for you will be there when all the crap has hit the fan, when the money runs out before all the bills are paid, when you lose all your hair from chemo, lose your breasts from cancer, when you have to spend more time taking care of your elderly parents than you do them, when you run out of gas, when the car stops, when stress has beaten you down, when the job is constantly taking instead of giving and when you no longer have a taste for lemonade even though the world keeps giving you lemons. Yea, if they are meant, they’ll be there after the dust settles.
See, a person who truly cares won’t run away when the tough gets going but they’ll run to you with their arms open, they’ll stand beside you to prop you up when you lean, they’ll reach down to grab you when you fall and they’ll stand in front of you offering their shirt for your tears. A person who honestly loves you will cry with you when the news from the doctor is grim. A person who genuinely means well for your life will be there holding your hand when your loved one is lowered into the ground. A person who is meant for you will know, by the sound of your voice, that things aren’t alright even though you’ve said 5 times they are. A person who loves you with their whole heart won’t scare you because 1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” For the bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” It’s alright to go have a drink alone sometimes but having someone there with you to share an appetizer is always better and you don’t always have to face this mean world alone if you let people in. Not everyone that comes into your life will hurt you even when you’ve been hurt a million times before. Not everyone that shows up at your door will let you down although you’ve been knocked down more than you can count. I realize that your heart is cold towards men because your daddy left but baby your daddy is the one missing out on your life so stop punishing all men for his choice. You want every woman to cater to you like your momma does but honey your momma is your momma and your wife is your wife, there is no comparison so stop doing it. Just because your momma did everything for you while you were at home, you’re in a partnership now so start acting like it. I know you’ve been hurt but forgive those who hurt you and move on. I know you’ve been lied to but get over it because some folks would rather lie when the truth would surely do. I know folks don’t keep their promises to you but they are human and bound to make mistakes, forgive AND forget.
If folks are meant for you then they’ll be for you. Stop trying to make folk into something they are not. Just because you go to church every Sunday, don’t hold it against your spouse because if you live the right way then they’ll eventually want to see for themselves the God that you’re worshipping. Stop trying to turn your wife into a basketball fan or your husband into a fan of Glee. Allow the folks around you to be who they want to be just like you are being who you choose to be. Life has enough, promised, trouble without you adding to it. You’d better stop taking advantage of whom or what you have at home because after so long it/they may not be there when you open the garage one day. Love the one you’re with and stop chasing after someone that’s not yours. Trust the one you’re with now and stop holding them accountable for what someone in the past did. Believe in the one you’re with now and stop thinking they’ll break promises like others did. Cherish the ones you have in your life now because they won’t always be there. Quit chasing after what is not yours because if it’s meant for you they will not run. Love has feet that will walk to the end of the earth, arms that’ll wrap around you a thousand times over, shoulders that’ll withstand the weight of the world, knees that can stand the hours of pray needed to make it work, eyes that will cry with you, legs that can help carry your burdens and hands that can soothe every ache in your body. Love is given and love is received. Love is God and love is of God. If you have God then you are capable of loving. 1 Peter 4:8 says, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” Love is meant for you, so receive it. If he/she is meant for you, they’ll show you in their actions because 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” If it meant for you then it shall be!