You don’t have to tear folk down in order to build them up. You don’t have to destroy folk’s self-esteem and then act like you were encouraging them. You don’t have to criticize all the time, try showing them instead. It’s like remodeling a building, house or even an old car; sometimes the outside shell of what you’re rebuilding is good but the inside is tore up. So you don’t destroy the shell but you gut the inside. Why? Because the outside is good, the inside is what’s jacked up. Haven’t you been to a place that’s been remodeled? The outside is still the same but the inside is brand new. This is how, as God’s people, we have to be to one another. You don’t have to tear folk down on the outside, their problem is internal; start there. It’s even the same for self-remodeling. Stop with buying all the clothes, shoes and smell good fragrances to mask that your inside is rotting. Start from the inside and work your way out.
Sometimes, we need to do a self-remodel of ourselves because we’ve been blinded by the, ‘God knows my heart’ stigma too long. Yea, God may know your heart but does He know your voice? Beloved, we’ve got to get to a place in our spiritual lives where we stop running from whatever it is God is trying to do in our life. What does that mean? It means that it’s time for your overgrown self to grow up. It means it’s time for you to stop relying on Grandma’s praise and get your own. It means that it’s time you stop playing church. It means it’s time you fix yourself. It means that you may have to send yourself to rehab (physically and spiritually). It means its time you let go of the dope smoking and drinking every day. It means it’s time you put down the games and find a real job. It means you need to pull your pants up and your dresses down. It means you need to stop sexing everybody you meet. It means you stop being hellish all the doggone time. It means it’s time to remodel you, internally. Stop masking the hole in your heart with another person, deal with the real issue of why your relationships aren’t working. Stop covering up your tear-stained face and deal with why you’re crying. Stop hiding the bruises of abuse with clothes and makeup, seek help. Don’t tear down to rebuild yet encourage yourself to remodel.
-I’m a work in progress so pardon my dust.
“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13”