I don’t know who this is for but somebody needs to know that your marriage is sacred and worth fighting for! Stop basing your relationship on what you see in somebody else house – it ain’t yours. Stop valuing your husband on what her husband does – he ain’t him. Stop comparing your wife to somebody else wife – she ain’t her. Marriage by the dictionary definition is the state of being husband and wife. But I say it’s a relationship between a man and a woman who have decided to be each other’s prayer partner, helper, tag team, confidant, back scratcher, feet massager, cook, company keeper, secret keeper, motivator, stress reliever, encourager and a sex toy (our bodies belong to each other). Yea, when you enter into a marriage, you should go in with a mindset of being a husband or a wife to each other; valuing and respecting the person you’ve taken as your spouse for Ephesians 5:33 says, “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
I get it, with the days and times now; it’s easier to give up, it’s easier to walk out but baby what’s the sense of investing time, sweat and tears into your marriage if you aren’t willing to stay and make it work? That’s like spending all of your time, sweat and tears working on a project only to get to a point where you can’t get something to go right and you feel like giving up on it. Do you trash all of the hard work you’ve done or do you take a moment, regroup and try again? It’s the same way in your marriage. If you gave up every time your husband didn’t put the toilet seat down or your wife burned dinner, or they made a mistake, the divorce courts would be overflowing. My point is this … Marriage is hard work but if you both go in with God as the head, with a willingness to work, with an open mind and without all the stubbornness of mine; your marriage can be worked out! Men, your woman is your good thang; she is your favor, treat her as such. Respect her, protect and provide for her as you should! Women, you are the rib of your man – you are his protection, do your job! Didn’t you know the rib cage protects most of your main organs, well that means we, in a sense, have a duty to protect our good thang! This is why we have to pray for him or should I say we should be praying for one another. And women, there isn’t anything wrong with standing behind your man; there is where he protects you! Cut out all the foolishness! If your marriage is worth saving, save it! If it’s not, let it go so you both can move on. Stop dwelling on past mistakes and enjoy the present. Love is worth enduring when you love the one you’re with. Love is worth the suffering, if you suffer with the one you’re with. Love is worth the down times because it makes you enjoy the up times so much more. Love abides where God is. Make God the head of your marriage and He’ll head your marriage!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”