Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Now men, not only do you find a wife but you obtain favor from God. Do you not understand how big that is? When you find your wife, you also receive unmerited (that’s undeserved) favor from God and all you did was find the one person God made for you. Yea, I know you think you’re doing something because you’ve been shacking with her for 10 years but don’t you want your favor? I know you think if it ain’t broke why fix it but look again, it’s actually broken and needs fixing. Oh, you’re listening to the folk who say she’ll change once she gets the ring and the paper? Then she isn’t your wife because if you’re already living together then you’re already doing married folk things and you should be committed to each other.
- 1. Release the demons of your past. You are not your absentee, alcoholic, drug addicted, or abusive father or mother (if that applies). You are not what society has deemed you to be. You can be exactly who God has destined you to be, if only you believe in yourself. Your past does not matter so stop allowing society to make you think it does. God made you in His image and Ephesians 4:31 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”
- 2. You have to be ready to be a husband. 1 Timothy 5:8 says, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” The worst thing you can do is take on the responsibility of a husband without being ready.
- 3. Look for her. But you must have your heart in God in order for Him to lead you to your wife because when you go looking through your natural eyes, the enemy will have lust looking like love and then you’ll be tied to someone who will cause you hell the rest of your natural life. And please don’t go get someone else wife, she isn’t yours! Proverbs 18:22.
- 4. Cherish her, don’t hurt her. Colossians 3:19 says, “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” No one has a right to put their hands on their spouse whether male or female. If you need help, get it!
How do you find you wife?
This is for both men and women – STOP! Stop giving up every time things get hard. Stop allowing folk into your household, into your marriage and into your relationship. Stop telling all your business to your family and friends. You forgive, they don’t. Stop arguing and fighting! Learn how to hash out stuff like grown folk because when you don’t, you raise children who argue and fight. Above all things, keep God as the head. So many times in marriages we leave God out of it and then we expect Him to fix it when it’s bad but keep God as the head and allow Him to be the guide and He will be. It’s not going to be always easy; nothing is but hold on for he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord!