We’ve all heard the saying, sick and tired of being sick and tired, right? We are quick to say it. Girl, I so sick and tired of being sick and tired! Man, I’m tired of this and that! Then I have to ask, “What are you tired of?” Are you tired of being broke? Do something about it. Sit down and plan a budget and stick to it. Stop wasting money on the name brand clothes and shoes for the kids to go to school in only to get there and act a fool. Some of us are getting ready now to spend entire paychecks on Christmas for children who have just about everything they could ever ask for. But we don’t care, we spend until we are broke and then what. Two days later we’ll be screaming, I shouldn’t have bought you anything, when they are standing in our faces talking back. You do notice the word we, because I am also talking to self. But this year, we are doing Christmas differently because the children will be volunteering some time at local charities because, believe me, they don’t need anything. If your paycheck is running out before the next one comes, then some changes need to be made. Stay at home on the weekend and instead of club hopping, shopping, and/or eating out. There is nothing wrong with going out dancing with friends, but if you can’t afford it, stay at home. There is also nothing wrong with shopping, if you have the extra money, but if you don’t stay at home because you probably already got 3 of what you’re buying anyway. Instead of constantly out eating with your girls, plan a girl’s night in and ask everybody to bring a dish and bottle of wine. Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses because they are struggling too! There are ways of saving money. Go to the beauty shop every 2 weeks and the nail shop on the off week, put groceries in the house for the week and take your lunch. Start thinking and stop spending. Luke 16:11 says, “So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?”
I ask again, “What are you tired of?” Are you tired of that relationship that is going nowhere? Do something about it! You are constantly going home to a house (because it is not a home) where the stress level is shooting pass the roof and when you walk in your attitude changes and everybody notices. But your house should be your home where you can go and release the stress of the world, where you can relax from the hectic day you’ve had and where you should be able to laugh and tell somebody about your day. Home should be where your heart is and if it isn’t, change it. I’m not saying divorce or pack up right away and leave but if changes need to be made then make them. Pray, sit down and talk, pray and fast, go to counseling and pray, fast and pray some more. If the both of you are willing to change, then a change will come. The change does not come if one or both of you are too stubborn to realize that you need to. Marriage is a sacred covenant that should not be entered into if it’s not for keeps. Yea, people change and sometimes love is placed on the back burner but if this man or woman was worth your heart before what’s the problem now? If there is cheating involved or your spouse is an unbeliever, the bible gives you the right to divorce. (2 Corinthians 6:14 and Matthew 19:9) Now, if your home is unhappy because you got folk there (other than your spouse) that is making it that way, change it as well. I know that you are always helping folk and it’s hard to say no but for your own sanity, sometimes you have too. Whether it is grown kids that should have been on their own, family members or friends who always run to you when they hit rock problem but can’t find them in the day time with a flashlight when you need help; change it! You have to choose to be happy and if home is not happy, then YOU have to change it! Because everyone deserves a place of happiness!
So what are you tired of? Is it being talked about, lied on, passed over for jobs, turned on by family or not having someone to count on? Well, child, these things are promised so get over them. Folk will always talk about and lie on you so give them things to talk about. Become more than what they would have ever expected. Use your haters as your motivators and as your step stool to reach higher heights. When doors are being closed in your face it doesn’t mean it’s locked, so don’t give up keep knocking because eventually someone will answer. If folk walk away from you, let them go, family included, because if they are meant, they’ll return. Stop chasing folks that walk away because if they left you once, they’ll do it again. What or who God has for you will be for you. If you spend all your time chasing those that mean you no good, when will you have time to see those that are meant for you? Stop worrying about the stuff that you can’t change, focus on those that you can. Let go sometimes and laugh, dance like no one is watching, sing in the shower or just live. Your life is precious but if you keep allowing the job to weigh you down, what folk say about you get you down or stressing yourself out about bills and no money, you are sending yourself to an early grave. Stop rushing your life, slow down and enjoy it. Matthew 6:33 says “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Isn’t that great news? Let go of the stuff that keeps you from living. Stop spending your entire weekend on work stuff because if you’re in the hospital over the weekend, won’t it wait until Monday? Matthew 6:34 says “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Set aside time to talk to God, whether it is on your drive to work, while you brush your teeth or before bed. Spend some time with him so that he may know your voice when you call him. Just because you are a Christian doesn’t mean he knows you. It’s the same way as moving into a new neighborhood. Just because they see you move in don’t mean they know you. Spend some time getting to know God and he’ll get to know you.
“Then Jesus said to his disciples: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. For life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?” Luke 12:22-26